Oh that's great.. But what's in it for ME?

You and I are going to differ in plenty of ways. Some people are outgoing and bubbly and others are more introverted. He might love chocolate and she's all about vanilla. That's the good stuff. Everyone is unique.

With rare exception, one trait that seems to be strikingly consistent in all humans is their self interest.

So ask yourself, depending on the situation how can the other person benefit?

Watch how quickly you both get on the same page.

(Common sense, sure. But when was the last time you used it to your advantage?)