The Dating Black Card (Featuring Ms. Terry)

(As discussed, there have been suggestions to add some women perspective to the site. So once again, today's post comes from a female contributor, Ms. Terry.)

Ms. Terry: Summer time is over, boys. That may not mean the same thing to you as it did years ago but one common theme remains, the end of freedom. Summer is a time for flings, NSA (no strings attached) hook-ups and carefree fun... but have you ever heard of a “winter fling?”

I don’t think so. In the past, the end of summer brought the return of school. These days, it brings the return of dating. Vacation is over and it’s time to get back to work.

As if being a single 20 something in Manhattan wasn’t already hard enough, now we’re all navigating through in the current economic situation. People are making cuts everywhere, and the dating world is no exception. Many of my male friends have expressed a desire to date (ironically right after labor day) but feel as though they can’t afford to.

So my gift to you fellas this week is rather than point out those silly things you do wrong (just kidding) I am going to share with you a present and show how you can turn a “so-so date” into a WOW! date.



Here’s what you have to realize. CHIVALRY IS NOT DEAD! (Re-read that sentence) A lot of my guys joke about their lack of financial resources, “What do these girls think I have a black card or something?” Well, think of Chivalry as your black card to dating. It will open a whole new world of doors and offers a reward programs that you didn’t even know existed. The best part is… ITS FREE!

Women notice and appreciate the little things of the date, the things you don’t even realize, and these are the things that get you that 2nd date.

A woman will remember you opening her door and pulling out her chair. And while she may recall that the tasty $15 cocktail she ordered at a swanky restaurant, I assure you that such a detail will pail in comparison to your impressive use of the black card.

Yeah yeah, I know this all seems cheesy and unnecessary, but these small details can make a HUGE difference. For most women (gold diggers aside), it doesn’t matter what you spent, it’s how you treated us.

These little basic acts of chivalry make women feel special, liked, and show care. So don’t worry if that wallet is a little lighter this dating season, just member to bring your dating black card! That’s Sprezzatura.