The Morning After (Featuring Ms. Terry)

There have been suggestions to add some women perspective to the site. So today's post comes from a female contributor, Ms. Terry.

Ms. Terry: Men often label women as “complicated” and accuse us of sending mixed messages. The truth is sometimes guys just make poor decisions that have us reevaluating our feelings.



For example, we meet people at bars and get caught up in the moment. Then, the next day we’re second guessing our blurred memory.

Here’s something for guys to keep in mind that will leave you hanging in our good graces and guarantee a second interaction- whether it be drinks, dinner, or just some late night action. The major secret is that it all comes down to your next move. Do you call or text?

When we give our number to a guy, we don’t say "hey give me a text sometime". So why would we expect or accept one the next day?



Don’t go typing away about how much fun you had and asking to meet for a drink. That’s such a wimp move… grow up already! If you land our number – we want to HEAR from you – simple as that!

Sometimes, all you have to work with is a BBM pin. In this case, yes, you can resort to the electronic means of reaching out. But if you get the digits then be a man. Pick up the phone and CALL her! That's Sprezzatura.

(Here’s a tip- if you’re that nervous to call, at least pick up the phone during a “safe” time like while we’re at work and most likely won’t pick up anyway!)